Your marriage is within jeopardy therefore you want to do all you
are able to conserve your marriage. In order to know how your relationship has
come to this point, we should review the way you got here originally. In an
effort to help you keep your marriage, we shall start looking at the most
common causes of divorce.
Often times throughout marriage, our priorities change. A marriage
contains two distinct individuals with their unique list of values. While at
the start these values were integral in bringing you together, values and
priorities change given certain conditions. For example, you've had your first
child.
Priority will now be shifted to raising your baby and providing
care and guidance for around the next eighteen years. All too often, the change
in priorities is realized by one parent and not the other. Your life may be
altered by the birth of your child. An unparalleled change in priorities often
causes anger and resentment between the two adults. Difference of opinion in
child rearing or an uneven sharing within the duties involved is one of the
major reasons for divorce.
Boredom is yet another factor contributing to divorce. Remember
when all you experienced together was new and exciting? So what happened?
Couples become more comfortable with each other, busy with routine and eventually
are inclined to complacency. Just as you will place down a book you find
boring, a lot of couples today get the only recourse for marital boredom is
divorce, or worse infidelity. That leads us to just one more reason couples
choose divorce over remedy.
Infidelity is not just a violation of your
own marriage vows, but a violation of trust and what holds the marriage as
sacred, setting it apart from other relationships. All too often, if infidelity
has happened in your marriage, no matter how many times you plea “I want to
save my marriage”, there just is no turning back. Trust in a relationship is
tantamount. Once that trust is broken, many see no resolution. Intimacy within
your relationship becomes spattered with doubt and mistrust. Often, once infidelity
has occurred, it does'not matter how hard you try to forgive and forget, it
does not happen. Infidelity is really the # 1 reason for divorce. I’m certain
that comes as no big surprise!
Another leading reason behind divorce and this is probably the
most founded reason, is abuse. Whether physical, emotional or psychological,
abuse is abuse. If your calls are being monitored, your laptop or computer
history being checked, designed to feel ugly or inadequate, told how to dress
or wear your hair, these are generally all forms of abuse. Aside from the more
obvious, physical violation in anyway, shape or form, abuse occurs more often
than you may be aware.
We have merely scratched the surface
revealing the most notable reasons behind divorce. Marriage is definitely an
agreement by which both of you decided to share life. It is hard work for the
simple idea that you are two separate individuals conjoining to create a life
together. In case your relationship becomes broken or you have lost sight in
the common goal, tell yourself, “I want to save my marriage” and do whatever
needs doing to realize any of these factors impinging on your own union and do
what must be done. Please don’t give up til you have recognized the
infiltrators of your marriage. Love is precious. It is in your power to keep it
alive and thriving!
